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TTWMN 108: Predictors of Divorce

I doubt that anyone gets married with the idea of a future divorce in mind. But you can go into a marriage with red flags and warning bells galore—you know deep in your heart that you should not be marrying this person, but you go ahead anyway, convincing yourself that it will be “different” once you two are married. I know because before I came to Christ, I lived this.

Today, we’re looking at a recent article from Scott Morefield, entitled “4 Behaviors That Will End Your Marriage”. And if you hear yourself in the descriptions, I pray you seek the Lord immediately to save your marriage.

 

On the Table today

Proverbs 19:13 | A foolish son is ruin to his father, and a wife’s quarreling is a continual dripping of rain.

Proverbs 21:9; 25:24 | It is better to live in a corner of the housetop than in a house shared with a quarrelsome wife.

Proverbs 27:15-16 | A continual dripping on a rainy day and a quarrelsome wife are alike; 16 to restrain her is to restrain the wind or to grasp oil in one’s right hand.

 

The 4 Behaviors That Threaten Any Marriage

  1. Criticism
  2. Defensiveness
  3. Contempt
  4. Stonewalling

 

Ephesians 5:22-33

Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands. 25 Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, 26 that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, 27 so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish.[a] 28 In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church, 30 because we are members of his body. 31 “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.”32 This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church. 33 However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.

1 Peter 3:1-7

Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives, 2 when they see your respectful and pure conduct. 3 Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear— 4 but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious. 5 For this is how the holy women who hoped in God used to adorn themselves, by submitting to their own husbands, 6 as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord. And you are her children, if you do good and do not fear anything that is frightening. 7 Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you[a] of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered.