Ever notice how sometimes husbands and wives over time can take on each other’s characteristics?  Maybe it’s how you do a task, or maybe it’s how you talk, like inside jokes or a special “language”, or maybe it’s the sports you follow or teams you cheer for.  As the bride of Christ, we are supposed to take on the characteristics of our bridegroom, being conformed into His image as we are sanctified more and more by the Holy Spirit.  But that got me thinking—is it just a “supposed to” for me?  Or is it something more, something I look forward to, something I appreciate and enjoy?


Table Talk Notes


I remember a Star Trek episode…

Next Generation episode called “The Perfect Mate” (Season 5), an empathic metamorph was born and raised to “imprint” on her husband, taking on his characteristics to be able to please him, in an arranged marriage designed to bring peace between their two worlds. The Enterprise is called to transport this precious cargo to the other world involved in the conflict.  Kamala emerges out of stasis early due to Ferengi hijinks, and, having the ability to sense what males around her desire and react to it while emitting copious pheromones that affect those males, the danger to herself and the stability of the crew, require her to be sequestered alone in her quarters.

Her only allowed contact is with Captain Picard, whom she must train in the ceremony where she will be presented to her intended.  She is intrigued by the Captain’s devotion to honor and duty, his independence, brilliant mind, sense of adventure.  He can’t understand how she can live only to be what someone else wants her to be, but she explains that is who she is—she is fulfilled only in what she gives to others, and is incomplete when she is alone.

She ends up bonding herself (imprinting herself) on Picard: “I wish I could convey to you what it’s like to be a metamorph.  To feel the inner strength of someone.  To realize that being with him is opening your mind and heart to endless new possibilities.  To hear yourself say, “I like myself when I’m with him.””  But when Picard suggests she can’t go thru with the ceremony, she responds, “Would you ask me to stay, and ask two armies to keep fighting? Having bonded with you, I’ve learned the meaning of duty. He’ll never know.  I’m still empathic.  I will be able to please him… I only hope he likes Shakespeare.”  Source


Like Kamala

I was born, as we all are, designed to be “imprinted” on my true husband, Jesus Christ.  But I also didn’t “wait” for my perfect mate.  Instead, being able to sense and react to what the males around me desired, I went “looking for love in all the wrong places,” bringing myself into danger repeatedly. When I found my True Bridegroom, who not only desired me but also cleansed me from all the iniquity & damage I brought with me to the relationship, I too was intrigued with His character, His love for me, the future He had planned for me.

And I too have realized, I like who I am in Him.


Do you remember what you were like “B.C.” (before Christ)?

I was unbelievably self-focused, attention-hogging, prideful, hedonistic, depraved…I’d be able to tell when I’d “crossed the line” with people and they’d pull back, so I would be super sweet to them to draw them back to me.  Then repeat the cycle all over again.

In Christ, I still battle the selfishness and pride, but I don’t WANT to be those things anymore, plus I don’t have to battle them on just my own efforts now.  Titus 2: 11 For the grace of God has appeared, bringing salvation for all people,12 training us to renounce ungodliness and worldly passions, and to live self-controlled, upright, and godly lives in the present age, 13 waiting for our blessed hope, the appearing of the glory of our great God and Savior Jesus Christ, 14 who gave himself for us to redeem us from all lawlessness and to purify for himself a people for his own possession who are zealous for good works.

I still battle the selfishness and pride, but I don’t WANT to be those things anymore. Click To Tweet

He has given me the Fruit of the Spirit, the ability to exude “love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control.” (Galatians 5:22-23)


He is conforming me to His likeness

Romans 8:29 | “For those whom he foreknew he also predestined to be conformed to the image of his Son, in order that he might be the firstborn among many brothers.”


He will never give up on me

Phillippians 1:6 | “And I am sure of this, that he who began a good work in you will bring it to completion at the day of Jesus Christ.


Eph 4: 17 Now this I say and testify in the Lord, that you must no longer walk as the Gentiles do, in the futility of their minds. 18 They are darkened in their understanding, alienated from the life of God because of the ignorance that is in them, due to their hardness of heart. 19 They have become callous and have given themselves up to sensuality, greedy to practice every kind of impurity. 20 But that is not the way you learned Christ!— 21 assuming that you have heard about him and were taught in him, as the truth is in Jesus, 22 to put off your old self,[f] which belongs to your former manner of life and is corrupt through deceitful desires,23 and to be renewed in the spirit of your minds, 24 and to put on the new self, created after the likeness of God in true righteousness and holiness.

Col 3:1 If then you have been raised with Christ, seek the things that are above, where Christ is, seated at the right hand of God. 2 Set your minds on things that are above, not on things that are on earth. 3 For you have died, and your life is hidden with Christ in God…9 Do not lie to one another, seeing that you have put off the old self with its practices 10 and have put on the new self, which is being renewed in knowledge after the image of its creator. 11 Here there is not Greek and Jew, circumcised and uncircumcised, barbarian, Scythian, slave, free; but Christ is all, and in all. 12 Put on then, as God’s chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassionate hearts, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience, 13 bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive. 14 And above all these put on love, which binds everything together in perfect harmony. 15 And let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, to which indeed you were called in one body. And be thankful. 16 Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly, teaching and admonishing one another in all wisdom, singing psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, with thankfulness in your hearts to God. 17 And whatever you do, in word or deed, do everything in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him.