Raising kids can be a challenge, but that challenge seems to be getting harder day by day. With all the distractions of technology and the normality of both parents working or single parent homes, today’s youth are more disconnected than ever from real relationships, real bonds that can form them into the happy, productive and responsible young adults that seem so few and far between lately. So what is really going on with our youth, and how can we raise healthy kids despite the culture? Here to talk about it is Youth Pastor and co-host of HopeNet Radio, Jeff Strommen.

Book: The Epidemic: Raising Secure, Loving, Happy, and Responsible Children in an Era of Absentee and Permissive Parenting by Robert Shaw M.D

  • The Problem: kids without bonds and boundaries drifting in a world of distractions, ever discontent, frustrated, irresponsible, without a moral compass, unhappy and unfulfilled while overscheduled with every activity under the sun.
  • How did we get here?
  • What can we do?


Verses on Parents’ Duty to their Children:

Isaiah 38:19 | It is the living who give thanks to You, as I do today; A father tells his sons about Your faithfulness.

Psalm 78:1-4 | Give ear, O my people, to my teaching; incline your ears to the words of my mouth! 2  I will open my mouth in a parable; I will utter dark sayings from of old, 3  things that we have heard and known, that our fathers have told us. 4  We will not hide them from their children, but tell to the coming generation the glorious deeds of the LORD, and his might, and the wonders that he has done.

Deuteronomy 4:9 | “Only give heed to yourself and keep your soul diligently, so that you do not forget the things which your eyes have seen and they do not depart from your heart all the days of your life; but make them known to your sons and your grandsons.

Deuteronomy 11:18-21 | “You shall therefore lay up these words of mine in your heart and in your soul, and you shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes.  19  You shall teach them to your children, talking of them when you are sitting in your house, and when you are walking by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise. 20  You shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates,  21  that your days and the days of your children may be multiplied in the land that the LORD swore to your fathers to give them, as long as the heavens are above the earth.

Joel 1:3 | Tell your sons about it, and let your sons tell their sons, and their sons the next generation.

Exodus 10:2 | “…and that you may tell in the hearing of your son, and of your grandson, how I made a mockery of the Egyptians and how I performed My signs among them, that you may know that I am the LORD.”

Proverbs 22:6 | Train up a child in the way he should go, even when he is old he will not depart from it.

Ephesians 6:4 | Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.

Proverbs 13:24 | He who withholds his rod hates his son, but he who loves him disciplines him diligently.

Proverbs 19:18 | Discipline your son while there is hope, and do not desire his death.

Proverbs 23:13 | Do not hold back discipline from the child; although you strike him with the rod, he will not die.

Proverbs 29:17 | Correct your son, and he will give you comfort; He will delight your soul.

Hebrews 12:7-11 | It is for discipline that you have to endure. God is treating you as sons. For what son is there whom his father does not discipline? If you are left without discipline, in which all have participated, then you are illegitimate children and not sons.  Besides this, we have had earthly fathers who disciplined us and we respected them. Shall we not much more be subject to the Father of spirits and live? For they disciplined us for a short time as it seemed best to them, but he disciplines us for our good, that we may share his holiness. For the moment all discipline seems painful rather than pleasant, but later it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it.

Colossians 3:21 | Fathers, do not exasperate your children, lest they lose heart.

1 Timothy 5:8 | But if anyone does not provide for his own, and especially for those of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.